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Don't Get Stuck...

Being an Empath often comes with the territory of ending up carrying others' baggage because we "feel" for them, and wind up feeling responsible somehow for fixing it.

However, this is a co-dependent, and unhealthy dynamic and benefits NOONE. It is not enough for us to just "feel" for others. YES, that creates a deep caring which is much needed in this world but if we don't transform that into action, we just end up sitting in the hurt.

Which leads to a host of issues for us. And if we are not our best selves, we may become overwhelmed and even lash out at those whom we are caring for. Creating a cycle of hurt for ourselves and others.

What do we do then?

We need to transform our empathy into COMPASSION. Often, people assume it is the same thing but it is more of a cause and effect. Here are the two definitions:

Empathy: Empathy is having an awareness of other people's emotional experiences and feeling those same emotions from their perspective.

Compassion: Compassion is the desire to take action to help the other person.

Can you see how compassion is much more beneficial to the big picture? Let's see how we can turn our empathy into compassion:

1. After "feeling" the feelings, create a distance between yourself and those feelings. Become the "watcher" as Eckhart Tolle would say.
2. Let go of what is NOT your own feelings. And, if you have strong triggers that come up in that moment, it is better for the other person for you to walk away than to try and sit there and listen or try to "fix" anything. Sometimes this is the most compassionate action we can take.
3. Ask yourself, "If I was this person, what would I need right now?"
4. Then ask, "Am I the person to give this to that person right now or should I simply hold a safe and caring space for them?"
5. Next, reflect if there is anything else you can do in this situation that would create a loving environment for BOTH myself and the other person in the future so less pain would be inflicted.

We must take care of ourselves, become more aware, and let go of what is not ours. When we do this we become empowered to make an amazing difference in our own lives and in others.

If you would like further assistance, dealing with all the "feels" so you can become a compassionate force, click below!

With love, light, and joy always,

Sarah

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